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By joining the SFWED Chatrooms you agree to the following rules, which are strictly enforced by the Chat Managers. If you are banned from the chat for breaking rules, you will also lose your permission to post on the bulletin board.
Chat Rules
BE AWARE: The chatrooms are NOT the appropriate forum for conversation that includes threats to commit suicide, hurt yourself (including self-injury), or detailed accounts that express either of these things are currently taking place. Anyone who partakes in this kind of behavior in the chatroom will be immediately moved, without warning, to a page of hotline numbers. If you are in immediate danger you should call your therapist, a family member or friend, a hotline, 911 or your local emergency number. This is for the comfort and safety of all chat members.
People who are under the age of 16 (15 and under) MUST use the teen room. We do not allow anyone under the age of 16 in any of the other chatrooms. If you are thirteen years of age or younger you are not permitted to use the chatrooms at all, in compliance with Children's Online Privacy Protection Act.
The Recovery Room is for people in recovery or recovered. If you are not prepared to talk about issues related to staying on the road to recovery and/or relapse prevention, you should join another room. (Chat Managers will move people who are not participating in a productive manner.)
The chat rooms are not meant to be a replacement for professional therapy or support group, but meant to provide a support-group-like atmosphere for sufferers who need to share feelings and experiences with other sufferers. It is important to remember that most of the other users who will be present in the rooms are also sufferers, not trained in providing support or advice, but who can only speak from experience, and who (in most cases) are dealing with a lot of serious issues themselves.
It is important to remember that one of the "common" traits of having an Eating Disorder is to isolate yourself from other people in "real-time" (off of the computer) and relying on support rooms such as this can feed into that isolationistic behavior... in other words, it is important to find other means of support off of the computer (support groups, OA or other 12 step programs, discussion groups, professional one-one-one or group therapy, etc.).
The Something Fishy Eating Disorders Chat Rooms are meant for support. They are meant for conversations that pertain to sharing experiences and asking advice. They are a forum aimed and working toward dealing with emotions and achieving healthier lifestyles. The are not meant as a place to share diet tips, to brag about disordered eating patterns, how little or how much you weigh, or weight loss methods. Discussing these matters can be and are often counter-productive to recovery.
The chat rooms ARE NOT meant for users to conduct research for book reports, research papers, a college thesis, etc. They are for sufferers of Eating Disorders, or their friends and family, to find support. If you are looking to do research for a project please explorer the site for what you need and do not harrass chatters with questions or comments. It is not permitted.
The chat rooms are an inappropriate forum to ask people for pictures of themselves for any reason. RESEARCH is not tolerated. Asking for photos or people's weight is not tolerated.
For safety purposes and because this is a live chat, we discourage users from openly exchanging information such as their last name, mailing address or phone number. If you find you would like to correspond without another user outside the rooms we recommend that you first, in private, exchange e-mail addresses.
Additional Activities Not Permitted: Lurking, harassment, verbal abuse of another user, flooding, flaming, spamming and advertisements of diet products, use of programs such as IRC clients, worms, bots scripts, or trojan horses will NOT BE TOLERATED for any reason. Initiation or participation in any such activity will cause you to be banned from chatting in this or any other Something Fishy chat forum, and may be cause to report the behavior to your ISP for termination of account. Something Fishy reserves the right to immediately terminate or suspend access to our chat rooms for conduct that we believe interferes with anyones support and safety.
Emotional Responsibility to Yourself: It is not your responsibility to take on the problems of each individual that enters the room, nor are you responsible for their actions within or outside the room. Ultimately, the number one person you are responsible for is yourself... if you find the conversation within the group is becoming counter-productive for you personally, because of it's nature, (but not disruptive as a whole), then it is your responsibility to excuse yourself, leave the chat and come back at a later time. It is important to keep in mind that there are often sensitive issues discussed in support rooms and everyone is at a different stage of their illness and recovery. For example: if someone in the chat is discussing issues of abuse as a child, and to you this is a very sensitive area, it is not up to you or the rest of the participants to censor the individual discussing the issue... but it is up to you to decide if it will help or harm you to stay, and then to follow through with leaving if that is your choice. Ultimately, it is up to all of us to make productive choices for ourselves, to learn to support and take care of ourselves, and not just others, and through learning to do that we can all push forward and closer to a healthy recovery.
Final Reminder: No weights, no calories, no research and no photos -- there are no exceptions to these rules and they are strictly enforced.
Chat Managers will not only enforce the rules but can and will remove you from a room if you are not following the guidelines. Anyone who continues to break the rules will be banned (for a set amount of time) from chatting in these forums. Also, Chat Managers can and will move you from one room to another if they feel that you should not be in a particular chatroom (for example, teens under 16 will be moved to the teen room, or those not in recovery or recovered will be moved to another more appropriate room).
It is at the sole discretion of the chatroom managers to remove a user from the chatrooms, to move a user to another chatroom, or to ban a user completely from access to the chat.
Chat Room Managers are usually present in the room to attempt to maintain a certain amount of order. They appear in the rooms with a yellow and red fish beside their nickname (users have a yellow and green fish next to their nickname). This does not mean the chats are moderated - you are welcome to speak openly about anything you need to. The Chat Room Managers are just present to help and insure a safe and healthy environment for everyone. Once you have completed reading the Rules click below to proceed to the Something Fishy Eating Disorders Chat Rooms.
Netiquette
Please be courteous of others in the room. Keep in mind that many of them are dealing with very serious issues surrounding their Eating Disorders. You should always be respectful of other's wishes. It is against the rules to share information such as weight or BMI and it is also against the rules to ask another chatter for their weight or BMI.
There are often times when conversations get emotionally intense, including the use of graphic language. This is permitted in the proper context, but we ask that you try to remain courteous of other people in the room. It is also your responsibility to yourself to leave the channel and return at a later time, if the conversations are counter-productive, or triggering bad memories for you.
These rooms are for support and not for finding new ways to continue to perpetuate your Eating Disorder. You can not use these rooms to ask for suggestions on how to purge, what diet pills or laxatives to use, or to brag about how little or how much you eat or what you weigh. These types of topics can be counter productive to the goals of these rooms, which is to find support that will lead to a healthier lifestyle, and/or to find friends that can understand what you are going through in living with an Eating Disorder. Also read the rules if you haven't already.
Chat Instructions
What you need to chat: There are no plug-ins required. All you need is a java-enabled version of Netscape 3 or higher, or Microsoft Internet Explorer 3 or higher. It should also work with the more recent versions of AOL (that have Internet Explorer built in).
The Interface: The java-chat interface is very easy to use. On the bottom of each page where the chats reside you will find helpful tips should you need them.
The chat can be detached from your browser, for resizing, or so that you can browse the web while chatting. This is called "undocking" the chat. Once you detach (or undock) the chat from the browser, you may be temporarily disconnected, but you can reconnect by clicking on the "connect" button which is in the top left hand corner. DO NOT close your browser window before closing the chat window. You will get an error if you try to close your browser while leaving the chat window open.
The three buttons on the top menu bar that look like different doors will give you the ability to enter a room, exit a room and get a list of rooms. These features are mainly used for when the chat is undocked (detached) from the browser. You can also use the graphical buttons below the chat interface to enter a new room or to exit the chat and return to the main menu of the site. If the list of rooms is empty, or if it seems to be missing rooms, it just means there is no one currently chatting in the rooms that are missing from the list.
To hook up with other chatters try joining the room you want at the beginning of the hour (12:00, 1:00, 2:00, 3:00 etc.)... if there are no other chatters than stay a bit, someone is sure to join you soon! Chat rooms are open 24 hours a day 7 days a week.
A password is required for all rooms. The password currently in place for all visitors to access the chat is the letters "ed" (without the quotes). Keep this in mind if you decide to detach (or undock) the chat from the browser. You may need it if you decide to switch rooms.
You should try to close as many programs (and windows if you use AOL) as possible when you are chatting. Running additional program in the background will draw off the system resources and may cause you to have connection problems. The more RAM you have on your system, the less this is an issue, so please keep it in mind when you decide to participate in a chat.
Register
In order to take part in online chat you now must be a registered member of the community. This entitles you to be part of our our bulletin board and the online chat area. If you are already a registered member (either for the Remember It Hurts Bulletin Board or the Family and Friends Support Finder) you do NOT need to sign up again -- your username and password will work to access chat.
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As a registered member you agree to all the above rules -- if you break the rules in any way and if you are banned from chat or the bulletin board, you lose all priveleges as a registered member -- meaning, if you are banned from chat you are also banned from the bulletin board, and vice versa.
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